Christina Aguilera BOTCHES National Anthem at Superbowl… So what!

I may be a little late in talking about this but the news about Christina Aguilera “Botching” the National Anthem is profound and yielded an immediate opinion and thought by me but at the same time deserved a bit of a yawn.

None-the-less, the topic has been on my mind and there a few things that need to be shared about this and put out there.

My immediate opinion, thoughts, and feelings were

SO WHAT!!!!!!


There are so many factors that can be going in to this National Anthem mess up it’s not even funny.

The first and most important thing to acknowledge is that she’s frickin’ human and stop being such Jackasses about the whole thing like you’re god (lower case intentional).

Do you sing?  Do you speak in public?  Don’t start saying that she’s a professional and that she should be used to it by now because you don’t know what may have happened to her 5 minutes before going out there.  Maybe her little girl threw up and has a fever.  Maybe through all of the hustle and bustle she heard someone in the stands say, “You’re a whore!”  Would those things cause your mind to wander?  I know they would mine.

I’m not even trying to make excuses for her, I’m just saying the truth.  No one even knew she messed up until they told us later!  You can tell by the tears (not cheers but tears) and applaud. 

The second BIG thing to be thinking about is do YOU know the National Anthem?  A poll said that 75% of Americans were pissed at what happened.


I bet 70% of those Americans don’t even know the National Anthem and if they happen to know it I bet they can’t sing worth anything and to put those two items together in the same room is already a feat.

NEXT… Why does that song mean ANYTHING to YOU??  Do YOU know its

THIS is patriotic? Even the "Picket-fence Dreamers" haven't experienced life outside of this country.

history or are you just following 90% of the rest of the people that have no reason for their anger except that everyone else is angry and you’re supposed to be angry?  If you DO happen to know the history and you love this country, WHY do you love this country??  I know my thoughts and reasons, about 9 other people I know also have their reasons, but what about you?  Don’t give me the same ol’ CRAP of, “Because it’s a great country.”  Are you 3 years old?  Do you have a real answer yet?  Take your time but DO give a real answer.  “Because it’s the greatest country in the world” is also NOT an answer.  90% of the people who say that have NEVER even visited anywhere outside of the U.S., much less, LIVED outside of the U.S. so you have nothing to compare it to and any attempt at that being an “educated” answer is out of the window.

Being a bully isn't cool... Didn't you get the memo?

Now listen, I appreciate people appreciating and being happy with what they have but not at the expense of other people’s happiness and making other people feel like trash.

Remember. Just because someone else is making fun of someone doesn’t mean you should jump in and bully too.

Remember #2 Just because someone is a celebrity doesn’t make them any less human.


America’s Next Top Model: CW Networks CRAP and AWESOMENESS

You'd love to be one of those girls, huh? Let me show you how...from my perspective.

It seems that there are a lot of “lady topics” coming up lately, huh?  Well, I AM married and those topics are relevant topics to talk about as well.

So America’s Next Top Model was being watched in my home.  -Ok, fine.  I was watching it one lovely morning while eating breakfast with my wife-and there are two things that bothered the freak out of me.

Thing #1:  There is a Modern Orthodox Jewish girl on the show and there is a conflict

Thing #2:  There is a girl on the show with issues about cutting her hair.

Ok, so there always seems to be a girl on the show that has issues with cutting her hair.  Here’s my issue though.  I understand that she chose to be there and that that is what happens and that’s what the “industry demands” blah blah blah.

Isn’t there a song by some girl singing about, “Blah blah blah?”  She was singing about this.

These girls are slaves of the industry and Tyra Banks and everyone else is looking at them as if they’re the idiots because they don’t conform to the ways of the industry.


How about this ladies, look at THEM like they’re the idiots the next time they ask you to do something that you don’t feel comfortable doing.

Here’s the thing.

Oh, by the way, this is the same thing that drove me crazy with the Orthodox Jewish girl.  It’s her own decision but here is my point.  They asked her if she observed the Shabbat (Jewish Sabbath day), which is from Friday night to Saturday night.  She said, yes.  They then told her that these models work every day, is that a problem?  She then said that she could do that.

Once again.  Here’s the thing.

Ladies, gents, anyone in the industry.  YOU make the industry, don’t let it make you.  Don’t just let them slap you around and make you feel like an idiot because you want to be you.  I understand that part where you play the game until you’re “big enough” to change the game but if you aren’t who you are now you’ll find yourself being a slave and complacent by the time you are big enough.  Take a look at Tyler Perry.  He created his own way of doing things from the start because the system just wasn’t for him.

This post is for everyone in the acting, modeling, and entertainment industry.  I’m telling you to be you and to not be ashamed about it and don’t apologize.  Someone can say, “yeah well, where did that get you?”  I’d respond with I’m producing my own magic with two separate companies and working on this one as we speak.  The big part of this process is figuring out what I want and what I feel like I can do without getting bored.

I’m also working on a $70 Million dollar film script that is going to be one of the masterpieces of my life, if G-d blesses.

So.  If you need some support or you want to tell me your story please leave your message below.  This is a big problem and is causing a lot of people to hate themselves later on because it just doesn’t work out the way you thought it would.  One of the girls on the show got sent home after getting her hair cut off.  Her point was that she went through all of that pain and then went home.

It’s a growing experience for her but…

Be You.

Focus Up.


“The Naked Mom.” Brooke Burke on Ryan

You know.  I find myself trying to be politically correct in the opposite way when I deal with topics like this.

Instead of trying to please the conservative people there is a bone inside of me that attempts to placate the liberals so that I don’t appear to be too “square”.  Well guess what???

CRAZY TALK on that!!!

Screw it.  I’m going to continue to keep it real because that’s what this is all about.

I’m all about the women being respected and the women having a right to be who they are etc. etc.  I’m the first cat to stand up and agree and protest that they should be treated equally so let me get that out of the way.

I was playing basketball this past Sunday and there was a little lady that came and played with us 200 and 300lb men.

Ok fine.

There were some men there who were signing up on the list to play and blatantly said that they’re not playing with the girl.

Ok fine.

So, as it turns out, perfect for this post, I actually ended up playing on her team.

Ok fine.

It went well and we lost but she was good and played with interesting fervor but for the most part was as good and even better then several of the men who were out there.

Just a subtle reminder so you never forget that I'm the real Spider-Man.

Here we come to Part 2.  I was on the team against her.  Equal opportunity and equal everything right?


So I’m playing her the way I’d play anyone else (of all of the people she decides she wants to guard me… Ok).  I’m boxing her out (going for the rebound for those of you who don’t know) with the same effort as anyone else and blocking and guarding her (she was frickin’ quick) like anyone else and she’s getting frustrated as anything.

Like anyone else.

(I added that for a little shout out that I’m not so bad at basketball, ahem.)

So I’m boxing her out going for a rebound and in her frustration she says, “if you keep pushing me I’m going to call it!”  I respond.  “Don’t start complaining just because you’re little.”  I didn’t mean to but I think it made her day that I didn’t say, “…. because you’re a girl.”  I meant it too.  She WAS little and I meant what I said.  It may have been a little tangent but I proved a self-righteous little point that I’m an equal opportunity employer here.


Brooke says that a woman doesn’t have to lose her self-identity and all of that just because she becomes a mom.

100%  I agree.

I also need to say that losing your self-identity and growing up are two different things and that we should not confuse them.  There are too many women and men today who are so concerned with themselves and “I need to take care of myself” attitude that it is at the expense of their children.

You DO need to take care of yourself first but that doesn’t mean going to the spa instead of listening to your child’s problems because “you don’t have time.”

I’m on a bit of a soap box here and I’m sure she has it perfectly balanced out and is writing for those people on the other side who perhaps tire themselves out so much that they’re no good to anyone.

So that’s what I’m here for, right?  To talk to the other side.

Short and sweet.  That’s all she wrote.  What do you think?

Focus Up.